Today on HELP! Relationships 102, we open up the solution for those who desire to be free from the need to be in control. Very often, the Control Freak is torn between the instinct of needing to be in control and the weariness and burden of feeling like he has to be in control. For even though he is the most comfortable being in control, he's not always happy about it. Despite his actions, the Control Freak rarely, intentionally hurts anyone. He is not a villain. Rather, he is attempting to minimize the possibility of being hurt! But, how does this person find the strength to begin to let go of the controls when their memory is still fresh from prior hurts and losses that came about from not being in control?
For even after discovering the harm that trying to be in control can cause, especially within their relationships— how does one not control? How does one not attempt to protect themselves? What do you do your when your need for control derives fromyour instinct for survival, or
