Men in particular and women too are taught not to show their emotions and to keep unpleasant feelings to themselves. Yet it is the expression of these feelings in a safe and welcoming environment that is so key to healing. To keep such feelings to yourself create a cold rigid persona further isolating yourself. When you isolate your feelings you act in opposition to the way the world is constructed. We are all connected in some way and so you may find that if you let your emotions be known others are likely to welcome such authenticity, and you may find that those tears melt away your Ice-Olation.
